I named this publication before I fully understood it.
That’s usually how it goes with the good ones. The words show up first, and you spend the next year figuring out why you picked them. I’ve had enough people ask me what Designed, Aligned & Primed actually means that I figured it was time to write it down.
But I don’t want this to be a vocabulary lesson. Every one of these words is a question, and I’d rather you leave knowing where you stand than knowing what I meant.
So here’s the map.
Designed
This one hits on three levels.
The first is the inner work. Who you were designed to be. That’s where Human Design comes in for me. I love the classic personal development principles, I spent years inside them, and I’ve watched too many devoted students use one-size-fits-all success advice against themselves. Human Design is the personalization layer that was always missing. You weren’t designed like everybody else, so why would the same instructions work?
The second is design in the literal sense. Light, lens, room, frame. There’s a lot of it in what I do. Everything you see on a screen was designed by someone.
And the third is the part most people never think about: everything on your screen was designed by someone too. Your lighting, your camera angle, the wall behind you, the way your voice arrives. All of it. The only question is whether it was designed with intention or just happened by default.
That’s the first question.
Look at the version of you that shows up on camera. Was that designed, or did it just happen?
Most people have never asked it. They set up a laptop on a kitchen table in 2020, and five years later it’s still the kitchen table, and they wonder why the room doesn’t feel like they do.
Aligned
Congruence. That’s the whole word.
From a Human Design perspective, it’s your inner authority and your outer authority saying the same thing. It’s being aligned with the work you’re here to do, and with the path you chose and that God, the universe, source, whatever you call it, has been leading you toward.
When you’re aligned, people can feel it before you say a word. And when you’re not, they feel that too. They can’t always name it. It shows up as micro-doubts. A little hesitation they don’t understand. Micro-doubts compound.
Here’s what I’ve come to believe after years of doing this work: most people do not have a content problem. They have a presence problem. The message is good. The wisdom is real. It just doesn’t make it through the screen intact. Something on the outside is contradicting what’s true on the inside.
That’s the second question.
Does what people see and hear match what’s actually true about you? And if not, where’s the gap?
Be honest. You already know the answer. You’ve felt it every time you watched your own replay and thought, that’s not really me.
Primed
Ready for prime time.
It’s also a nerd joke. The GlamCam system is built on prime lenses, the cinematic, soft-background, shallow-focus glass that makes a screen feel like film instead of a video call. I don’t know that most of you care about that, but it’s a big part of my work and it’s part of why I landed on the word.
But mostly it’s this.
For as long as I can remember, going back to my years with Bob Proctor and every room I’ve been in since, I’ve heard women in particular say some version of the same thing. I worry I’m past my prime. It’s going to be harder to get there now. Maybe I missed my window.
It’s so not true.
Look at Bob himself. He didn’t hit his stride until his 72nd year, when The Secret came out. Seventy-two. Louise Hay published her first book at 50. The one everybody knows, You Can Heal Your Life, came out when she was 57, the same year she founded Hay House. She made her first film at 81. And the people in my world, the ones actually doing the thing, are almost all in their fifties and beyond and just getting started.
Human Design would tell you the same thing. The midlife cycles aren’t a wind-down. That’s where purpose and meaning actually begin.
The world has a habit of calling these women past their prime. I’m here to say no.
This is your prime time.
That’s the third question, and it’s the one I care about most.
Are you ready for prime time? Or have you quietly agreed with the world that your prime is behind you?
Where you stand
So that’s the map. Designed, Aligned, Primed. Three words, three questions.
Was it designed or did it happen by default?
Does the outside match the inside?
Are you ready, or did you agree with a story that was never true?
You don’t need to answer all three today. But I’d bet one of them landed harder than the others, and that’s the one worth sitting with.
If it was the second one, the gap between who you are and what makes it through the screen, that’s exactly what my free 8-part series is about. It’s called Be Seen as the Authority You Actually Are, and it walks through the 5 On-Camera Trust Levers one at a time. Start there.
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The real you is already there. My job is just helping the screen tell the truth about it.